Monday, July 21, 2014

In celebration of Pioneer Day

This celebration talk truly captures exactly what my Latter Day Saint Heritage is all about and also captures this quest for happiness and where it truly lies. I feel I have a lot to improve on including the daily tasks of being a mom and not ever feeling burdened by my awesome job of being able to stay at home all day with my little boy. I could be at work and have more money but yet I get to enjoy the most important work everyday with him. I may not get as many breaks as I like or free time but that isn't what life is about. Life is about family, work, being happy in the daily things we do and appreciating all we have. We really do have it easy in a lot of ways and need to love work. I hope this gives anyone comfort and peace. I am so grateful to be part of a church that teaches us to love one another, be there for others, be grateful for what we have, work hard for what we have  and to be a better people. I am better today because I am Mormon. 

All Is Well




The following is the text of the address President Dieter F. Uchtdorf gave July 13, 2014, at the Pioneer Days Celebration in Ogden, Utah.

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf speaks at the Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

In a few weeks the eyes of the Church will be on this city as the Ogden Utah Temple is getting ready to be rededicated. The open house will begin August 1, and a cultural celebration will be held on September 20. So Ogden, get ready for this historic event. It will be wonderful and a time for a spiritual new beginning. You LDS members, I invite you to talk to your bishops to make sure that you have a current temple recommend—and take your friends to the open house. You who are friends of the Church, I invite you to ask your Mormon friends what the temple is all about.  Don’t be shy about asking, and if your friends don’t know the answer, the missionaries surely will.
It is interesting to note that when the original Ogden Temple was dedicated in 1972 there were only 14 temples worldwide, and now there are 142. Church membership then was 3 million, and now there are more than 15 million members worldwide. 
With such great things happening around us today, it is wise to prepare for the future by looking to the past.  Lessons from the past can help us to better manage the present and prepare for the future.
More than a century and a half has passed since the first pioneers made the 1,300-mile trek1 from Nauvoo, Illinois, to the Salt Lake Valley. What they and those who followed them did was difficult and dangerous. I doubt that many of those who set foot on that journey really understood what they were getting into or that they looked forward to the daily effort it eventually required. But they did know it was going to be hard and that there was a possibility they or someone they loved would not finish the journey.
And yet they came. 
By the tens of thousands2 they came.
And we—the Church, the nation, and even the world—are richer because they came.

Covered wagons stopped by a stream as women put water in buckets.

Theirs was an act of faith and courage. They believed that God had a plan for them and a place prepared where they could worship God and live their religion in peace. It is no wonder that 160 years later we still commemorate their achievement with songs, speeches, parades, fireworks, commemorative treks, pins, balloons, banners, and T-shirts.
I am pleased to accept the invitation to be with you today to celebrate, remember, and honor those remarkable pioneers. 
As you might know, none of my ancestors made the trek across the plains to these valleys in the Mountain West.
But then, even though my ancestors were not numbered among those who took part in that great enterprise, I claim the heritage of those noble pioneers as my own. Their example has influenced my life for good. I treasure the foundation they established for the restored gospel. I honor what they did, what they became, and what they gave to us as a result of their sacrifice. 
Today it is my great desire that those of you who descended from those noble pioneers will allow me to praise and honor these great souls as if they were my own ancestors. 

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf waves to attendees at the Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

Whether we descended from the pioneers or not, it is wise to remember that the glory of their sacrifice belongs to them. We can’t place the trophies they earned for their faith and industry on our mantels. We can’t pin the medals they earned for their courage and bravery on our chests. 
Our generation will need to stand on our own achievements, not on those of previous generations. 
In the life to come, I will be eager to meet with those legendary giants who gave so much to found these cities here in the valleys of the mountains. I think they will be pleased by our interest in them. I think they will be humbled by our admiration. But I also believe that they will be far more concerned not about what they did, but about what we did as a result of their sacrifice. 
I have a feeling they will be pleased far more by our performance than by applause, praise, or parades. They will want to know if we gained anything from the hard-won lessons they learned through tribulation and trial. They will want to know if their sacrifice and endurance made a difference to us and to our children.
All Is Well?

Attendees at the Ogden Institute Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

As I think about our pioneer heritage, one of the most moving things that comes to mind is the song “Come, Come, Ye Saints.”3 Those who made that long journey often sang this hymn during their trek. They sang it at night as the campfire was fading, giving way to the darkness of night.
When I think of the lyrics of that hymn and the context in which it was sung, it brings tears to my eyes. I am very much aware that all was not well with these Saints. All they had to do was to look around and see how it really was. They were plagued by sickness, heat, fatigue, cold, fear, hunger, pain, doubt, and even death. 
But in spite of having every reason to shout, “All is notwell,” they cultivated an attitude that we cannot help admiring today. They looked beyond their troubles to eternal blessings. They were grateful in their circumstances. I am in awe of those wonderful souls who, despite every evidence to the contrary, sang with all the conviction of their souls: “All is well.”
On a day such as this when our hearts and minds are turned to the great sacrifices of those pioneers, our praise for them is empty if it does not cause inner reflection on our part. Today I would like to talk about a few of the attributes that inspire me as I contemplate the sacrifice and commitment of those great souls.
Number 1: Compassion
The pioneers looked out for one another. They cared for each other irrespective of their social, economic, or political background. Even when it slowed their progress, even when it caused inconvenience, even when it meant personal sacrifice and toil, they helped each other.

Handcart pioneers near South Pass, Wyoming.

In our goal-driven and partisan world, individual or party objectives can sometimes take precedence over taking care of fellowmen or strengthening the kingdom of God. In today’s society, reaching certain ideological goals can appear to be a measure of our worth. Setting and achieving goals can be a wonderful thing. But when success in reaching goals comes at the expense of disregarding, ignoring, or hurting others, the cost of that success may be too precious.
The pioneers not only looked after those in their company, but they considered those who came after them—they planted crops for the wagon trains that followed to harvest, whoever those harvesters might be. They included people of all walks of life.
They learned the practical benefits of helping others. It must have given them comfort to know that just as they reached out to others, when the time came that they needed help, others would reach out to them. 
In our day, it is easy to isolate ourselves, look only to our own desires, and discount the interests of others. The pioneers knew the strength of family and friends. And because they depended on each other they became strong.  Friends became family. They knew that becoming insulated and thinking primarily of themselves was a road that would lead to almost certain disaster.
In our world, examples of self-interest and self-indulgence are so abundant. It is very easy to slip into that mindset. The pioneers serve as a good reminder of why we must break away from the temptation to isolate ourselves and, instead, reach out to help each other.
We must have compassion and love for one another.
Number 2: Work

President Dieter F. Uchtdorf and his wife, Harriet, with their first great-grandchild, Eva Mae Evans, and grandson Eric Evans at the Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

The pioneers knew the value of work.  The first line of that great pioneer hymn is “Come, come, ye Saints, no toil nor labor fear.”
This phrase became an anthem to the weary travelers—“No toil nor labor fear.” It is difficult to imagine how hard these great souls worked. Walking was one of the easiest things they did. They all had to pull together to supply and provide food, repair wagons, tend to the animals, minister to the sick and feeble, seek and collect water, and protect themselves from the pressing dangers of the elements and the many hazards of the wilderness.
Today we sometimes struggle in the morning to get out of our soft beds and into the bathroom for a hot shower. We eat a nutritious breakfast and drive in comfortable cars to air-conditioned offices. 
We can learn something from the pioneers. They woke up each morning with clearly defined purposes and goals that everyone understood—to serve God and fellowmen and to arrive in the Salt Lake Valley. Every day those purposes and goals were clear to them; they knew what they needed to do and that each day’s progress mattered.
They knew they couldn’t simply take a day off. Each day they literally put their shoulders to the wheel in order to get closer to their new place of refuge. Some days they made good progress. Some days they made little. But they didn’t have the option to give up.  In spite of feeling overwhelmed, in spite of many good reasons to become discouraged and disheartened, they did not give up. They could not give up. No matter how difficult, no matter how much they wanted to do something else, they kept their eyes on their goal and on their purpose. Each day and with every step they edged relentlessly closer to their destination.
In our time—when so much of what we desire is so easily within our reach—it is tempting to turn aside or give up whenever the road ahead seems a little bumpy or when the slope tends to rise so steeply before us. In those moments, it might inspire us to reflect on those men, women, and children who did not allow sickness, hardship, pain, and even death to deter them from their chosen path.

A pioneer family with a handcart.

But the pioneers did not work only because they had to. In the process, their labors enlarged their character and broadened their understanding. Work diminished their natural tendencies toward self-love and magnified their understanding of their divine nature. It heightened their compassion for others. In the labors of each day they discovered and solidified an inner strength and profound spiritual depth. 
They learned that doing the hard things—even applying themselves to the tasks they really did not want to do—deepened and strengthened body, mind, and spirit. This habit firmed their souls and became a blessing to them long after their trek across the plains and mountains had ended.
Lorenzo Clark was a baby when his English emigrant family arrived in Salt Lake City in 1853. He later wrote of what it was like growing up during that time: “My earliest impression is one of work,” he said. “The idea and ambition of everyone around me seemed to be to accomplish more and do it better than anyone else. Work was more [natural] than play, even among the young children who were expected to carry wood and water, run errands, feed the chicken and pigs, kill crickets and grasshoppers on sight with sticks, gather [alfalfa] seed, and help as far as possible with the gardening. … Though we … enjoyed and remembered the willow whistles and spool tops made and put into our hands by older persons, the real spirit of the pioneer group was industry and everyone [despised] the idler.”4
President Ezra Taft Benson taught: “We play too much. We work too little. We overeat, overdrink, and overplay. We are the richest people in the world, but not the sturdiest. We are at ease in America. And so we need to recapture the spirit of our parents and grandparents.”5
The next time we groan about an uncomfortable, inconvenient task that we know we should do, perhaps we can remember the example of these great pioneers, rise up, and do it. 
Number 3: Optimism
When the pioneers sang “Come, Come, Ye Saints,” they voiced a third lesson: “But with joy wend your way.”

A choir of institute students performs at the Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

It is one of the great ironies of our age that we are blessed with so much and yet we can be so unhappy. The wonders of prosperity and technology overwhelm us and shower us with security, entertainment, instant gratification, and convenience. And yet all around us we see so much unhappiness.
How many people do you know who are truly happy? Can you say the same for yourself?
The pioneers, those wonderful souls who sacrificed so much, went without and hungered for even the most basic of necessities to survive. The pioneers understood something about happiness. They understood that happiness doesn’t come as a result of luck or accident. It most certainly doesn’t come from having all of our wishes come true. Happiness doesn’t come from external circumstance.  It comes from the inside—regardless of what is happening around us.
If they were here with us today there is no doubt in my mind that they would tell us we can be gloriously happy even if our favorite TV show is cancelled, traffic comes to a crawl, the rain spoils our picnic, or the fast food worker forgot to include straws or packets of ketchup at the drive-through window.
I do not need to tell you stories of pioneer tribulations or the deprivations they faced. I do not need to tell you of how they went without food, how they suffered in sickness, endured heat and cold, and how they tearfully buried their loved ones in shallow graves. 
And yet, listen! Can you hear them? Can you hear their voices singing? “We’ll make the air with music ring, shout praises to our God and King.”
Oh, what inspiration we can take from this. 
When we complain about a Church meeting that has gone four minutes over its allotted time, perhaps we can hear the voices of those blessed pioneers: “Why should we mourn or think our lot is hard? 'Tis not so; all is right.”

A covered wagon on a raft being pulled across the Platte River, where other wagons are waiting.

When we cover our face with our hands and complain that someone else got the promotion, someone else got the part, someone else got the biggest slice of pizza, it might be helpful to remind ourselves that there is a difference between the profound and trivial. 
The pioneers sang, “But if our lives are spared again to see the Saints their rest obtain, oh, how we’ll make this chorus swell—all is well! All is well!”
So often our excuses for not being happy are in reality trivial and vain, as though we are looking for a reason to be at odds with the world—as though we want to prove somehow that we cannot experience joy.
The pioneers knew that the things around them did not determine their happiness, but the things within most certainly did. And with that spirit they found happiness in every circumstance and in every trial—even in those trials that reached down and troubled the deep waters of their very souls. 
The pioneers were not supermen and superwomen. They were just like you and me. How often did they wonder if they could go on? They must have asked themselves over and again, “Can I do what I have been asked to do?”
But they pressed on.  In faith, one step at a time, they pressed on. They trusted in God and His divine and merciful plan. And they left a legacy that will inspire and strengthen generations to come. 
Their Trials, Our Trials
The pioneers had their trials.
We have ours.
Some might say theirs were much more difficult than ours, but I am not so certain. You are familiar with Brigham Young’s famous saying: “This people will stand mobbing, robbing, poverty, and all manner of persecution and be true. But my greatest fear is that they cannot stand wealth.” “The worst fear I have about this people is that they will get rich in this country [and] forget God.”6

Attendees at the Ogden Institute Pioneer Days Devotional in Ogden, Utah, on July 13. Photo by Sarah Jane Weaver.

We sometimes look back on what the pioneers had to endure and with a sigh of relief say, “Thank goodness I didn’t live in that time. I couldn’t have survived.”
But I wonder if those courageous pioneers, had they been able to see us today, might not have voiced the very same concern. Of course times and circumstances are different today. They had their challenges—we have ours. They had their successes—we have ours. But as the circumstances may have changed, the principles for respectfully and successfully living together as a caring and prospering community under God have not changed. They remain the same.       
If we think that we have become successful as a result of our own abilities and intellect only, if we worship our own capacities and idolize the gods of money, power, and fame,”7 we have much to learn from the pioneers. 
From the pioneers we can learn to have faith and trust in God; we can learn to be compassionate to others; we can learn that work and industry not only bless us temporally but spiritually and that happiness is available to us no matter our circumstances.

Pioneers burying a baby.

In the end, the best way we can honor the pioneers—the best way for us to repay our debt of gratitude to them—goes beyond making and hearing speeches, marching in parades, or attending fireworks celebrations.  
The best way we can show our gratitude is by incorporating into our own lives the faithfulness to God’s commandments, the compassion and love for our fellowmen, the industry, optimism, and joy the pioneers demonstrated so well in their own lives.
As we do so, we can reach across the decades of time and take the hands of those noble pioneers in ours. We can add our own voices to theirs as we sing with them the great pioneer anthem and “make the air with music ring, shout praises to our God and King; above the rest these words we’ll tell—all is well!  All is well!”
May our hearts, spirits, and voices be filled with the same passion, industry, and faith of our pioneer forefathers today and always, and may we teach our children the same is my prayer and blessing, in the name of Jesus Christ, amen.

Monday, July 7, 2014

What is a mother




Being am MOM makes you one heck of a talented person. Not only do you multitask and handle littles or older kids with all there hormones, emotions, changes and reactions but you are a photographer (maybe not a professional), a chef, a meal planner, a designer, a decorator (if you choose any of these things), handy woman, creator, artist, cleaner, therapist, taxi cab driver, cheerleader, 24/7 babysitter, a food runner, dancer, singer and much more. You are just not a mom but a little bit of everything. It's hard being a mom but it sure is rewarding. I am so lucky I get to spend most my waking ours with my sweet Eastin even though I need days off and my time too. I never want to forget myself in all this and who knows someday I might just have to go back to work. Right now though…I cherish these mom moment today and everyday I get. It goes by so fast and I cry when Eastin reaches a new stage. He is walking now…what happen to my little 7 pound baby. A year came and went so fast and I am sure soon he will be walking into kindergarten. I think this is why I had another kids so quickly. I wanted another baby in my arms. If I could, I think I would have a semi big family…even with my bad days… but I know I can't. I am going to shoot for 3 though and I know lots of people think that is crazy. 

I love being a mom and not just a mom! MOM's are a million things and I am proud of this. I am so grateful for a healthy, lovable and lively kid. He is a mini Wes and I just know he will grow up to make me proud. HAPPY MOM DAY… I know it's not mothers day but today I just wanted to celebrate what is my career and work right now. 

PS I am not a perfect mom I also have to discipline, feel like a failure some days, cry from exhaustion, feel like the clock can't go fast enough…but these days are luckily rare compared to my 7 days a week and we all have these.


A Friend for everyday of the week




I think mommies need friends for every day of the week. It's hard being home all day alone. I need a Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, & Thursday friends. The weekend can consist of date night and guy or girls nights out, which both Wes and I need in our lives. We both love people and we love having friends and family close.

I go insane when I am alone to much and am not social. Who would agree with this idea and who wants to be my week day friends. I need you! I am fun, have lots of energy, talk a lot, and love to do new things. PICK ME, PICK ME!


I love my little boy and my 2nd coming here shortly but adult conversation is a must. I do get my girl nights in when I can and date nights when Wes can get those in too. I am already pretty spoiled but I need more. Does this make me selfish or just plain genius. I sorta know what makes me happy and I am an extrovert. Being alone a lot isn't my cup a tea and that doesn't make me a bad mom. I just want to be as happy as I can and keep going on creating a life that is beautiful.

Having friends I see frequently only makes me that much of a better person. So far I've created this as much as I can here and can't wait to get settled again and start this anew. I love learning new things about others and making new friends. For me a life surrounded by people gives meaning to my life. It has to be the right people though. I love being a mom and my goal is to keep being the best mom I can be and giving my boys the best life I can give them. I am so glad I've moved around enough and have been pushed out of my comfort zone enough to know what makes life better for myself. I never want to waste a life that can be full of joy again. It takes effort on my part to keep me happy, but It's worth it if it brings others around me up as well.

Goal…lots of friend time, play dates, and fun. This motivates me!

Thursday, June 19, 2014

I truly believe life is all about attitude.



 Today I chose to get up with the right mind set. To make breakfast, to listen to music, work out, breath, blog/journal and will continue my day with positively. I will find my spiritual, physical and emotional balance. I will speak nice words to Westin only and see the good in him. I will not say anything negative or complain about my situation. I will figure out solutions and ways to brighten my day. I will make my circumstance better by my Attitude. 



Wednesday, June 18, 2014

Finding true joy not just happiness


I see a lot of my friends doing the happiness project or 100 days of happiness challenge and it's made me think a lot about myself and if I can do something like this. I have been thinking I'll start when I am settled or when things start to look better…but why can't I start now and try? Do I think I will make it 100 strait days? Not a chance (I wish) but I do know that trying is better then not trying at all. If I can't be happy where I am right now then I can never be happy. Yet happiness is a feeling based on circumstances so what I am really searching for is JOY.  Joy is an attitude.

I am in MA for the summer and so far it's been a crazy adventure full of ups and downs. Westin's company moved us into a really bad apartment which is pet friendly and had dog hair everywhere.  They luckily did there best to fix it by deep cleaning the carpets and having a maid service come clean my home after I spent hours scrubbing and trying to get the dog hair away myself. It's gross to have a little guy walking in it and to be pregnant in all of it. My apartment also smelled like wet dog and I guess I was shocked and caught off guard. I thought I was stuck. It took me a few days to get the courage to say something to make the circumstance better and more enjoyable. What's also been hard is the fact I get the car maybe one time a week and am lucky if I do twice a week. I am at least an hour away from anyone I know and there isn't many places to walk to where I am with side walks. The pool isn't sanitary for Eastin &…etc. I could go on and on. So with this being my circumstance it's time to find joy in something really hard. My husband works 60 hours a week, I am alone most days, just Eastin and I. I thought there would be more wives in my husbands office to be friends with. I've tried to get to know people in my ward and around me but it hasn't seemed to work out when it come to play dates.


On top of all this not being super happy hasn't exactly made me the best wife and support to the most perfect man. It's time to make him happier as well and be the better half he deserves.



My goals is this…

  • Find joy in this last 5 weeks I am here…then continue when Wes and I are apart for the next month.
  • Appreciate the days even if they are not full of people, things, and entertainment to my liking. 
  • Treat Westin with the most respect of anyone deserving
  •  Help to make Eastin happy and stop thinking about boardom and circumstance.
  • Get a good nights rest so I wake up rejuvenated. 
  • Make sure I don't eat a ton of sugar that wears me down and actually lessons my energy levels. 
  • Mediate, journal and read scriptures or articles for spiritual strength in the morning.
  • Stretch and work out each day.
  • Wake up tomorrow with a plan to be happy and evaluate how I do each day.
  • ALSO NOOOO absolutely NOOO complaining to my husband. POSTIVE things to say only...


TRUST ME I KNOW IT COULD BE A LOT WORSE and it doesn't help that I've been spoiled by living in HI, have had a car most my life, and have been surrounded by friends and family who love me. Yes I am grateful I am not poor, have clean water to drink, food to eat, am not a slave on the sex trade etc… I think about these things I promise. Life is really good even when I've been spoiled and want so much more. SO TODAY I am going to look for the good in all things and go out of my way to focus on CREATING A LIFE I LOVE and finding joy in hard times.

YEP as spoiled as I am and dumb that I sound…I am going to find Joy.



Sunday, June 8, 2014

World of Dreams

It was so great seeing Brent's family and Jeff in Orlando this past week. We had a blast in DisneyWorld but it was also super exhausting. Eastin did surprisingly well for his age. I purposely bought a stroller that laid flat so he could get his nap in which was a success. I am so glad i went even though Eastin couldn't go on all the rides. Disney is great and does parent swap fast passes which is amazing.  I didn't miss out on anything and we had enough adults to help and make it a success with Benson and Eden. I went on a few roller coasters pregnant and hopefully baby is okay!!! Eden even road on all the rides she could which only excluded one! Having your kids 5 years old and up is the way to go for the future. She gets the gold star for being so brave. 

Here are some great pictures from our trip. Eden is definitely a girly girl and loved all the princesses. Brent woke up early one morning and stood in a 2 and a half hour line so Eden could meet the girls from Frozen. Such a great dad. Sophia did something so cool to. She had gifts from Tinker Bell each night if the kids were good. Benson got cars and eden got crowns and all sorts of cute things. They are great parents. 






















Tuesday, June 3, 2014

4 years




Cheers to an amazing roller coaster of a ride. I am so happy that I've been able to start this journey with the most incredible man. He puts up with a lot and I mean a lot. It's been so wonderful learning and growing together and making our marriage strong and happy. I enjoy all the time I get with him even in the busy life of being a mom and number #2 coming here soon. I've been blessed with the most perfect person for me and he is the greatest example of the person I need to become each day. He has taught me so much about myself and I love the change I will become being married to him. He is the most patient person I know. During this past time together he has maybe raised his voice at me less then 5 times. I wish I could say I've done the same. He calms me and helps me see life in a whole new perspective. I've had to learn so much self control through him to even be able to communicate. He won't even talk to me if I name call or raise my voice. This is something that is very immature and something that is making me better each and everyday.

He always gives me the ultimate respect even on the worst of days. He treated me like cold and is completely selfless if I need anything. He is always worried about my health, if I am getting enough sleep, if I am happy, and what he can do better. He is nice to everyone and really never says a bad thing about anyone. I've learned to never really talk about anyone and what a waist of time. He really just loves people for who they are the good and the bad.

He's an incredible father to Eastin and has taught me he wants to do it his own way and that is just fine. I've learned that we all have our ways of doing thing and sometimes he does things way better then I can. Eastin wakes up everyday saying "da da" and looks around for him when he is gone. I am so lucky to have a baby dad, toddler dad and I am sure the perfect dad for our kids. The person he is and the example he sets is already enough.

I love how he always makes me feel beautiful. I really have never felt ugly around my husband or worried about not wearing make up, if I have a little chub on me, when I get pregnant or anything. He really just makes me feel attractive and it's nice to know he loves me for me.

We've been to a lot of places and have done amazing things the past 4 years. I wouldn't change Hawaii and now Massetchusetts for anything. These adventures and moving all our stuff makes us crazy but strong together. Adding a second kid in the mix of it all has been wonderful. Wes and I always get on board together and talk through most anything. He takes my late night drama really well and my over dramatic emotions most of the time.

He is what makes me a better person each and everyday. I just consider myself lucky. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY Love BUG. Being in Flordia right now where we started our marriage is a great way to spend 4 years. I cannot wait to see you tomorrow.

xoxo